New Beginnings

I went out with Sebas again yesterday. We went for a coffee and closed the place down again. It was good for me to continue talking because I realized his world is all sport and adventure. It's great for a friend, but I want more romance. I also am realizing how important it is to open other parts of me. And, He always went back to his adventure. Almost like it's his identity. Like Jenny said, I am also seeing if I like him. I don't think I do yet. Maybe we will go out again, maybe we won't. And that's ok. I got to meet an interesting guy who has done crazy adventures and will continue to. I felt worthy getting his time for two long dates. That's enough. I have to say he did inspire me to take on something bigger than myself. I have to think about that. Maybe home leave. On the other hand, Sergio has the emotional maturity, knows how to go deep, and I am so attracted to his personality. Not an athlete though. And that's ok too. Maybe if I keep putting myself...

I did it. I am so proud of myself. I'm doing it. One step at a time. Going out, meeting guys, putting myself out there like Kat said. Pushing through the discomfort of not feeling enough. I am enough. My date with Sebas went well, much better than expected. Why? Because I expected it to go south. For him not to like me. For it to be awkward. It wasn't. The conversation flowed. We talked about ourselves, adventure, what we liked to do. Not anything too deep. Not past relationships. Not how we like this app. Just us. We admired each other's adventures. His disability came up a few times. and its as natural. The whole thing felt natural. When I left he said we should move to WhatsApp. I agreed, I gave him a kiss on the cheek and I left, smiling. I am not sure what will come out of this. Maybe someone to go on or talk adventures with. Maybe someone to date. He's coming to Quito a couple times this week. Let's see if we get together. He's not the best communicator. M...

Elizabeth told me to think about what I said in our last session. And then Jenny also flagged it as something to figure out. I feel less than, smaller than, not enough. That's it. Not enough. I know who I am. I am beautiful in my own way. I am smart. I am kind. I am successful in my job. I'm a good person. I've seen the world. I'm a good sister. But, no, I'm not enough. I can always be more for someone else. Prettier, funnier, thinner. Why do I feel that way? Easy answer. Papi. Criticisms. Watching him criticize mommy, and everyone he knew behind their backs. Comment about my weight. Not caring so much about my jobs or school work I was proud of. Never enough. That got better over the years, but carried on with Peter. His subtle ways of correcting me all the time. My decisions mostly. Are you sure? Why not do it this way? I wish I could get those years back sometimes. But, then I think about it more and I am here because I thought that. The problem is it no longer s...

It's funny I have this mindset that I want to jump ship when things get tough with relationships. for example, this whole thing with the 12 seconds. I messed up by saying she cheated, but I followed her and didn't mention that. I ruminated. I went from a small misunderstanding to they think im a cheater and bad cyclist and don't like me anymore. I should leave. That's the mindset. rumination over a small mistake. I can make mistakes. That's the drill sergeant in me. You suck. You're useless. You ruined it. Go. Get out of here. But, I won't. I won't leave. I like it here. I will stay and enjoy this time. Nobody is thinking about this. Maybe Chris, but I can explain it to her. Maybe it's not that big of a deal. Don't make this a thing. Don't let this bring you down. It's over. Why do I bring it back? Because my integrity matters. And I broke it a little. That's ok. I won't do it again. Especially now.  I like what I read about datin...

Papi said no again, in my dream. We were leaving to go somewhere with Marcela and one of the kids. The family was around. He said no. Papi said no we can't go. I have this engrained in me. I can't let him go. That voice. That firmness. That person I remember he was. As a kid, as a teenager, as an adult until he got sick. I wish I could remember the good parts too.  I heard from Jean that the CHOPS position is probably a no go. Way too competitive, which I expected. My gut didn't want it anyways. It was a good idea for financial stability, but probably not the bet move. I got to be CD. I am CD. I will be for 2 more years. Enjoy it while I can. Stay put like the trait reader said. Like Kat said. Embrace being here. In Ecuador. Save money. Get your pre-requisites. Be happy.  On the men front, I have been talking to Sergio a lot. He is the type of man I long for. Sweet, open, adventurous, challenges me mentally. Let's see how it turns out. He still has almost a month to his...

She beat me by 12 seconds. So I am second again, haha. The brevet 200k Culebrillas again, 4000 m of climbing. I don't mind actually. I do this for the love of the sport. I hate competition. I saw her and started to get nervous. Stressed. It was better not to have other women around me. So, she beat me. I made the wrong decision of not going around the round a bout. Then, I could have complained. But, you know what. Who cares. I still won in mi mind because she walked Carreta. I felt so strong. I pushed so hard. My heart rate average was 137, higher than normal. It's interesting though because my calories burned were the same as Andrea and her average was in the 150s. Anyways, great ride. Good to push hard. Great to ride with someone the entire time. Fun climbs. Good people. Great support. It was great, Much better than last year when I rode alone.  Then there's Sergio. I have been chatting with him for a few days now. Maybe a week. I am trying to be conscious of not getting...