Rough Starts

Yesterday I had a conflict with Lenin. I told him I couldn't go and he was abrasive. better that I know that now I guess, but it startled me. Yeh I confirmed through text, but I didn't pay. He was mean, saying that palabra and compromiso are most important. Ok, we all think that but things come up. I am not as confident when it comes to standing up to men. I don't know why, but I'm not. I need to be. I couldn't stand up to poppy. I tried. Matt was hard too. I fell for that one hard. I can't believe I let him talk to me like that or stay in my apartment after being such a jerk on that drive home. I was so upset. A the was criticising my driving. I should have kicked him out then. Or at least waited until I got home and asked him to get his stuff and leave. Instead he opened up a bottle of wine and yelled at me again, closed himself in my guest room and I didn't see him until the next day. What a jerk. I'm so glad I am done with him. Instead of beating myself up for not being done with him earlier, I can be proud that I learned from this.I learned that I can't let it happen again. That I know the signs now. That I know what a good guy really is. Justin. In terms of Lenin, I will let it go. We both made mistakes, and I don't need to be manipulated right now. I will find another adventure with climbing. Maybe I will do a series in April. The right way. It will be fine.

I'm grateful for...

- My health

- Friends like Erika and Ruth that I have met so far

- Standing up for myself yesterday



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