45 Lessons at 45

              1.          Trust your instincts, but verify when something feels off

              2.          You can’t choose your family, but you can choose who you get close to

              3.          Cherish moments with kids—they forget when they get older

              4.          You can start a fire with Doritos or Cheetos (survival tip!)

              5.          Fear is a good thing—feel it and do it anyway, let it guide you

              6.          Fire friends who no longer serve you or them

              7.          When you have a premonition you’ll lose something, move it—because you will

              8.          Confidence is silent, insecurity is loud

              9.          Lift weights 

              10.        Learn to recognize emotionally abusive behavior in men

              11.        Watch out for love bombing—it’s a red flag

              12.        Say “I’ll think about it” when you’re not sure or don’t want to attend

              13.        Avoid sarcasm—it’s often just mean

              14.        Give people a second chance, not a third

              15.        Don’t expect life to be fair

              16.        Success in any leadership position depends on your ability to deal with people

              17.        Say “I’ll think about it” when you want to say no

              18.        Going for a swim changes everything

              19.        Eat well when you’re stressed

              20.        Be happy for your competitors

              21.        Transparency is everything as a leader

              22.        The placebo effect is real—harness it

              23.        Antidepressants aren’t a bad thing if you need them

              24.        Ask the universe to protect you before every bike ride

              25.        Take a shower or bath when you’re anxious

              26.        A bath a day is calming and restorative

              27.        Prioritize self-care—you’re all you’ve got

              28.        You don’t have to have kids to love them

              29.        Say good morning to everyone around you

              30.        Good views can change your mood—seek them out

              31.        Connecting with one person a day makes you feel less alone

              32.        Call your mom even when you don’t want to

              33.        Your brain is an organ too—therapy and meds are okay

              34.        When you’re sad at night, go to sleep—it will be better in the morning

              35.        Set boundaries and stick to them

              36.        Not everyone will like you, and that’s okay

              37.        Listen more than you speak

              38.        Your time is valuable—spend it wisely

              39.        Learn to apologize sincerely

              40.        Celebrate small wins

              41.        Read books

              42.        Stay curious 

              43.        Practice gratitude daily

              44.        You can’t control others, only your reactions

              45.        It’s never too late to start over​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​


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