Just Friends

I called Justin yesterday, it was almost automatic. Driving home from physio. He called me back hours later at night. I can sense his resentment. After our call he said that maybe we shouldn't start the habit again of talking every day. I agreed, but was hurt. He is right. I don't want him to be a replacement for George. A whole to fill. I just want him as a friend. And he will find someone else. So I am glad he said that. I think every so often is better and when we have an update to share. Like friends. Nothing else. Not a habit, not a pass time, not a almost boyfriend. Just friends.

I am still not over Geaorge. Lately, I have been thinking about the good parts, dreaming of him, missing out connection, feeling sorry for him. It will get better. I will get over him. I just wish things would have been different. I wish he would have been doing well in his farm or not anxiously attached. We would still be together. Or who knows, maybe if he wasn't anxiously attached he wouldn't have chosen me.

I'm grateful for...

- Justin reminding me we can't go back into our routine

- My health and hope my shoulder is healed on Monday with xray

- Family and supporting Patty with her first half marathon 

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