Breaking A Pattern

I'm sad, but proud of myself. I told Edwin I didn't want to continue seeing each other because we want different things. I feel like I attract unavailable men. I do, and that makes sense. I had to earn love as a kid. I had to earn it with Peter and Matt. Justin felt safe but he wasn't the right one. I want safe. Not pressure, or trying to be someone I'm not. Someone that respects me when I say let's slow down. He wasn't any of these things and I know that I would just get hurt. It's not fear. It's knowing the pattern and breaking it. Be easy on yourself. It didn't work out this time. There will be more opportunities. There are lots of men out there that would love to be with me if they met me. I just need to be patient and open. 

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